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Thursday 3 September 2020

 


Media including social media is a very powerful tool that can play a role in revolutions and wars, teach you how to make bread, start up a small business, keep people loved and connected, spreads misinformation like wildfire and so much more. But most importantly any material can be used as evidence in court.⁣


If you’ve had the time and interest to read any of my lengthy posts, you know now how generally I don’t believe there are free media. ⁣
Especially coming from those who tend to polish like literally “all good here folks, look elsewhere, we’re perfect our side is immaculate”. ⁣

Many use media as a reference when it’s supporting their narrative, and would throw the opposing side under the bus when they use the same media! contradicting? cherry-picking? absolutely, I’ve seen this over and over (war, revolution, social and health issues you name it).⁣
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It’s human nature in some to vilify a group to show up as heroes and heroines. Are they right? are these ways fair? So they label people corner them and tell others how terribly (insert adj) depending on the narrative they are. That’s how the ground is gained to follow on, that’s how people are manipulated in many situations (wars are good examples, all the religious cults in the world as well).⁣




Are we being true to ourselves though? in front of god us normal loving to live people that have nothing to gain? do we sleep well or do some things we aren’t specifically affected by make us turn at night? do we all have a living conscience you know that compass we are born with? that we either grow or kill by time? 

I remember my father would tell me the classic answer of why our world looks like it does, “it has been like this since Habeel was killed by his brother and that’s why we have heaven and hellfire” good and bad will always exist. I also remember seeing my mother upset watching the famine in Somalia early 90’s when I asked why?

⁣What’s the price of our silence? Where do we draw a line? 
Are we still there standing on that same rug I’ve seen for a long time, looking at the problems swept under? As long as I’m untouched I shall not care أخطى رأسي وقص ومن بعديالطوفان 🎈

I’ve always wondered do we really look into our selves being fair? decent? unbiased? fair-minded.⁣ I know we’re very different and our lives are lived differently.!
⁣But would we stand up and say, I think that’s wrong? even to the people or cause, we’re fighting for and the message we lead by?⁣

This has been one of the most important questions I realised years ago, I’ve often questioned myself with. You know the one god talked about times in his book. Told us to stand firm against injustice even if it were to be against our own blood?⁣

This characteristic gives you labels 🏷 you’re not “loyal” for instance. But are we seeing this in our world? Do we stand with it often?⁣

‎يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ كُونُواْ قَوَّٰمِينَ بِٱلْقِسْطِ شُهَدَآءَ لِلَّهِ وَلَوْ عَلَىٰٓ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَوِ ٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ وَٱلْأَقْرَبِينَ ۚ إِن يَكُنْ غَنِيًّا أَوْ فَقِيرًا فَٱللَّهُ أَوْلَىٰ بِهِمَا ۖ فَلَا تَتَّبِعُواْ ٱلْهَوَىٰٓ أَن تَعْدِلُواْ ۚ وَإِن تَلْوُۥٓاْ أَوْ تُعْرِضُواْ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا⁣
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People would use every single straw left to say “I’m right” not often we’d see someone say “I might be wrong” “this is not the end” “I need to report someone in my family” “we need further research” well the latter is very often in the science field the one (that doesn’t kill people or let them die on purpose) the side that I stand by. 

Who is to blame for the injustice that happens to the fragile little children in this world? ⁣more fragile than butterfly wings, any damage can potentially last a long time, longer than we would live to see.

What happened to (it takes a village to raise a child).

This one conversation between Allah and angles high above, always made me ask my parents why are we here then?

The angles questioned god why are you creating a new being that will corrupt and (shed blood) kill? 

‎أتجعل فيها من يفسد فيها ويسفك الدماء؟ 
‎ونحن نسبح بحمدك ونقدس لك
‎قال إني أعلم ما لاتعلمون.

‎و فسدنا فيها ... 
‎وسفكنا الدماء...
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A couple of days ago many of us may have seen a terrible video circulating some videos had the little child’s face blurred in others it wasn’t. The perpetrators three men were shown to sexually abuse a 13 yr old child. The Arab media was blown with this story. 

The usual reaction went on, I was disgusted, cried, I prayed the child is well, I tried looking into how was he doing? were those criminals arrested? one was told to be (politically immune), I was thinking of the mother that was mentioned many times. 

I talked to myself, why were his first cries ignored? or never taken seriously? weren’t there signs? emotional and physical.
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Mind you priests, sheikhs, and the (honoured and trusted men) and women have done this before, just last year a nursery worker near Edinburgh was caught in this same act (I couldn’t sleep for nights). 

Some were prosecuted others were flown out to another continent, especially those who use faith as their cover. 
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I was asking myself who is to blame for what happened to this child? as reported (yes by the same media I’m often questioning) he was working with them in a shop. But there was a video that went viral? a grown man was assaulting a child! then were more.

Were there no channels to protect him?
There must’ve been signs? does he go to school? what school he’s working to provide for his family, he’s a refugee, his father left them and lives in another country! family members? neighbours? anything? Why has no one protected him? as reported on media this has been going on for years. 

Who is to blame? is it just the perpetrators? or the circumstances and people that led the child to be a worker at a very young age? 

Are we still building our lives over hidden problems that we swept long ago under the rug? Are we willfully ignorant?


Uncertainty

Thursday 23 April 2020


I hope everybody is keeping safe in these times of uncertainty. Back to social media feels like when you're entering a room packed with people and you just came to say hi and have no idea who to give a hug or shake hands first. If its anything that lured me back is the beauty of the connections and all the similarities with the most genuine people I've met through this space throughout the years. 


With all the changes we've seen around us lately, I think introverts like myself are probably doing the best, as long as we're allowed to get some fresh air I'm grateful.  The twist here is when you get an extroverted four year old that likes to talk even in her sleep.

It's been a good time to check our privileges and blessings to be able to have a deep breath is now and today one of them allhamduleh حمداً طيباً 




 Probably the most I'm busy with these days is keeping up with Joud and her questions of why even the park across us has been closed? (people gather no matter what sometimes). One of my favourite questions of hers was how do viruses talk to each other? do they communicate mummy? 
I'm enjoying both Joud and Adam's presence all day, we've pretty much adapted with all the changes. The sleep-wake cycle in our home is the same as before for my sanity and everyone's happiness! 

I'm finding it a good time for more Arabic introduced at home as there's not much else we're doing and no one we're seeing, it’s the best opportunity to catch up with Arabic.  I'll share anything I might find useful I know many parents are in the same boat as us. I tuck them to bed and get on with things I've been simmering for long months now, something that keeps my hands and head busy and oh very happy! 



I've noticed lately since the lockdown the amount of pressure arsing from this pandemic on social media. Its the overshare of all activities, learning, and peer pressure if you may.

Don't get me wrong I'm all for using the time we're given in a good way. But there's a massive wave of the pressure for learning languages, baking bread, teaching quantum physics to your tot, doing 90 squats a day, and yet the worst (the no sugar no carb no this and that fad diets) spreading like  wildfire, not that we were ever short of. 

Its good that many are finding the opportunity and ability to do all of that (except for dieting I never support that), it really is. But it is not so good when it starts to pressure other people or affecting their mental health in this very unusual time. And like I expected the unusual extreme activities will plummet soon (I’ve seen they have now)..

People are losing their jobs, homes, yet worst people are losing loved ones and are not able to even touch them, people are living in isolation, the most vulnerable in our societies are at their weakest now.  Do you really think "it was never time it was always you" a good time to have this conversation?. 

Imagine all that affecting people in Tripoli as well, a year-old war has been the most damaging in the previous month, take care of yourself please and don't believe everything you see on social media. And don’t get me started with the “positive and negative” labelling god it does my head in.


 It's okay if you like to read every day but it's also okay if you don't feel it, it's okay if you've been defrosting your toast loaf for weeks and not able to find the energy to bake it yourself.  You don't lack discipline (like that horrible message circulating has been telling you). 

Remember this please next time you feel you're a failure for not using your free time wisely, you're not on vacation we are living through a pandemic it's not the best of times for growth, remember the history we read once about ? well, we're living it now. 



We're facing uncertainty with everything in our lives now, it's heavy it's a steep ride, it will get better, it always does, doesn't it? just don't add unnecessary pressure to something you can control, please. We can only control certain things these days so please look after the inside of you first.

Self-chosen isolation the thing all introverts do well is a good time to just know yourself, express your feelings, calm down, do whatever you like on your time under your conditions! so welcome aboard extroverted folks I promise you'll find good pleasure and you never know what kind of inspiration spurts through this time. 
Remember Isaac Newton made his greatest discovery of gravity in isolation (hence the apple photos ahem).




Praying with all hope to see you all safe on the other side.